Friday, April 23, 2010
No Regrets!!
Today's Digichick blog challenge really speaks to me - it's about what you would do differently if you had to do it all over again. Here's my take using Skin to Skin by ViVa Artistry. Come on over to the blog and join us for the challenge - the prizes are AWESOME!
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Back to blogging!
Lots going on - not much time to blog!! We had a great time on Sunday celebrating Alexa's sixth birthday (coming up at the end of the month) and my nephew Collin's fourth birthday (was at the beginning of the month). It's so wonderful to be able to get the cousins together pretty much any weekend! Here's a layout I created of the joint cake!
Credits: Party! by Design by Heather T.
And here's a layout I created of one of my favorite photos from our wedding, just because I'm feeling all sappy towards Adam lately:
Credits: Sweet Innocence by Edeline Marta and Charlize Creations, and A Little Chaotic by Nikki Epperson
You can snag all these items for 20% off today - they're Digichick new releases!
Credits: Party! by Design by Heather T.
And here's a layout I created of one of my favorite photos from our wedding, just because I'm feeling all sappy towards Adam lately:
Credits: Sweet Innocence by Edeline Marta and Charlize Creations, and A Little Chaotic by Nikki Epperson
You can snag all these items for 20% off today - they're Digichick new releases!
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Return to Sender
I'm sure many of you have been following the recent story of the woman who sent her 7 year old son, adopted from Russia, back to Russia because she alleges she was afraid for the safety of her family and herself. This story makes me really, really angry. Having adopted two children from Russia, I know how it can be done "right." My children are the biggest joy in my life, and I feel blessed every single day. But Adam and I were prepared for them - and although we are fortunate that neither of our children have behavioral or emotional issues, we were prepared that it could happen.
So, I'm angry with Ms. Hansen, for having unrealistic expectations about what adopting an older child who had been institutionalized for a good part of his life would be like. Every - EVERY - source we consulted before we decided to adopt internationally explained the potential issues with institutionalized children - developmental delays, attachments disorders, behavioral problems, even PTSD. I'm angry that Ms. Hansen apparently didn't obtain the counseling and medical help her family needed. I'm angry she didn't reach back out to her adoption agency for help.
I'm also angry with the agency, for not being aware of the problems in this family. Russia REQUIRES post-placement visits by a social worker, with a full report delivered back to Russia, immediately after placement, at 6 months and 1, 2 and 3 years. This woman and her child are either fantastic actors, or the agency didn't do enough to find out what was really going on in the household. I also have to wonder how this woman ever made it through the screening process, which for many Russian regions requires a battery of psychological tests. Was her screening rubber stamped the same way her post placement visits were?
We'll probably never know what really happened in this case. But in addition to being angry, I'm really sad for all the families - prepared families - who are likely to experience delays in getting their precious children home. Been there, done that - and it sucks.
So, I'm angry with Ms. Hansen, for having unrealistic expectations about what adopting an older child who had been institutionalized for a good part of his life would be like. Every - EVERY - source we consulted before we decided to adopt internationally explained the potential issues with institutionalized children - developmental delays, attachments disorders, behavioral problems, even PTSD. I'm angry that Ms. Hansen apparently didn't obtain the counseling and medical help her family needed. I'm angry she didn't reach back out to her adoption agency for help.
I'm also angry with the agency, for not being aware of the problems in this family. Russia REQUIRES post-placement visits by a social worker, with a full report delivered back to Russia, immediately after placement, at 6 months and 1, 2 and 3 years. This woman and her child are either fantastic actors, or the agency didn't do enough to find out what was really going on in the household. I also have to wonder how this woman ever made it through the screening process, which for many Russian regions requires a battery of psychological tests. Was her screening rubber stamped the same way her post placement visits were?
We'll probably never know what really happened in this case. But in addition to being angry, I'm really sad for all the families - prepared families - who are likely to experience delays in getting their precious children home. Been there, done that - and it sucks.
Labels:
adoption
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Thursday already??
So, we're in Mexico, and have been since last Friday. We've been having a blast at the beach and the pool, but having a 22 month old puts a bit of a cramp in our activities! I've had some time to scrap when we're in early for the evening. The first two layouts are of photos taken here, on vacation. Enjoy!
Credits: Gimme a Double by Nikki Epperson, Inspirational Collection - I Wish by Edeline Marta
Credits: Seasons of Change {Summer} by Karen Lewis and Carolyn Rose Kite
Credits: template by Jacinda @ The Digichick, Kelly Girl by Kelley Mickus, Kellie Mize and Kelleigh Ratzlaff
Credits: Gimme a Double by Nikki Epperson, Inspirational Collection - I Wish by Edeline Marta
Credits: Seasons of Change {Summer} by Karen Lewis and Carolyn Rose Kite
Credits: template by Jacinda @ The Digichick, Kelly Girl by Kelley Mickus, Kellie Mize and Kelleigh Ratzlaff
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